Stop It!

This blog post is written specifically to my Christian and clergy friends. All are welcome to read it but it might make more sense if one realizes to whom it is directed.

Before reading this post I strongly encourage you to watch this video.

With that in mind, every time something terrible happens in our country (mass shootings, cops shooting a unarmed suspects, riots, etc.) and you:

·         Immediately post on Facebook some mime, picture or post expressing the popular opinion about who is at fault – STOP IT! Instead, step back, take some time for an investigation to be done, for facts to be uncovered so that an intelligent conclusion (Instead of an emotional conclusion.) can be arrived at and then, if you must, weigh in with your thoughts.

·         Speak out about how heartbroken you are about what has happened, piling on the words to sound even sadder than the last person who expressed their sadness. STOP IT! Of course you are heartbroken. Any caring, mentally balanced, emotionally healthy, clear thinking person is heartbroken. You are adding nothing helpful to the corporate conversation. You are not helping.

·         Support a rally sponsored by BLACK LIVES MATTER or any other special interest group. STOP IT! Of course Black lives matter. I haven’t done the research but I feel comfortable saying that less than 5% of the American population doesn’t believe that black lives matter. And holding a demonstration on the subject is going to do absolutely nothing to change the minds of the bigoted jackasses who don’t believe that black lives matter. Because such demonstrations hold such great possibilities of descending into violence, and do so little to effect change, they are generally a bad idea.

·         Trot out your diatribe that if we would past some more laws on gun control, all of this madness would cease. STOP IT! It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that guns are not our core problem – not even close. Hatred, lack of aggressive treatment of mental health problems and attempting to live as a society in a spiritual vacuum are at the heart of our violence problem. Could we do better with the control of guns in America? Of course we could. Would it make a huge difference? Probably not. Certainly we are not naive enough to believe that, are we? Gun control is just an obvious and easy topic to debate. Take away the guns and the hatred, racism and killing would stop? Of course not.

·         Use the opportunity to plug your favorite politician. STOP IT! In my lifetime I have watched politicians of all ilk’s promise the moon, rise to power and nothing much has changed. The sad truth is if they have the power to procure a significant office, they don’t really care about us. (No matter what the TV ads might say.) Our political system is so dysfunctional that real change has become an impossibility. And my observation over the decades has been, if you want something to get profoundly screwed up, put the federal government in charge of it. No matter how badly you want to believe it, the reality is your candidate for office is not going to fix our country.

·         Express your shock that a police officer has done something inappropriate, improper or contrary to the protection of the public he or she is sworn to protect. STOP IT! Is it a shame? Yes, of course. Is it shocking? Not really. Cops are people and people make mistakes. In any given group of people one will find some that are not too intelligent, some that are mean people, some that are bigoted people, some that are thoughtless people and some that are emotionally unhealthy people. That would be true for police officers. My research tells me that as of last year there were 1.1 million police officers in the United States. If there were just 1% of these officers who fell under the unhealthy descriptions I just shared that would work out to about 10,000 possibilities of something going very wrong. So, is misconduct by a police officer horrible and unacceptable – yes. Do these bad apples need to be weeded out, absolutely. But is this bad behavior shocking, no.

All of the above is so easy to do. For many of us these are our default responses. Talk first and think later. Knee jerk to our default political position. Respond emotionally instead of intelligently. Talk much and do little. It is just what we do. It is also profoundly ineffective. So just STOP IT!

Let me suggest what we Christians and clergy could do that would make a difference. Do what God put us on this earth to do. Apply our theology that tells us that we live in a fallen and broken world that needs the wholeness and healing that comes only from God through a relationship with Jesus. Get out of your office, your home, your church, your comfort zone and engage some people in real and vital relationships and conversations. Within the strength of those relationships share the love, healing, forgiveness, mercy and salvation that is made available to them through the love of God in Jesus Christ. Take some great advice from my son, David. “Want to do something about racism? Befriend a racist. Don't think racism is a problem? Surround yourself with minorities. Want to change the world? Get off Facebook and engage your fellow man. You won't change someone's mind by arguing with them.” Even if he is mine, I think the man is brilliant.

Want to change the world? Change hearts and lives. That is done one-on-one in relationships. Want to see hatred end? Change lives. I know it works because it worked in me. I grew up angry, hostile and basically a hater. If I met you I didn’t like you. My brother introduced me to Christ and Jesus changed my heart. I can’t explain the process but I know it happened. Politics didn’t. Arguments didn’t. Lectures didn’t. Those things may change circumstances but they won’t change hearts and lives. Jesus did it for me and millions of others and He can do it again in this dark and chaotic world in which we live. Things change. People don’t. Not without lots of work and the touch and power of God.

It is our calling as Christians: we are Ambassadors for Christ. We must get out of our Christian ghettos, connect with people who do not yet know God and are struggling with hurt, hatred, racism, brokenness, sin, lack of purpose, confusion, addictions, crappy relationships, fear, poverty and share with them the good news that there is a God who loves them and intends more for their lives.

Copyright © 2016, William T. McConnell, All Rights Reserved

Bill McConnell is the Interim Minister at Norwood Christian Church in Cincinnati, Ohio, and is a Church Transformation consultant and a Christian Leadership Coach. He is a frequent speaker at Church Transformation events. His latest book on church transformation is DEVELOPING A SIGNIFICANT CHURCH and is available at Westbow Press.

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Fuzzy Church

Fuzzy Vision
I can’t see. I didn’t know that until I entered the first grade. When I complained of being unable to see the writing on the board I was whisked off to the eye doctor and fitted for my first pair of glasses. The eye doctor mumbled some odd numbers like 20/200 and kept shaking his head. Soon I was fitted with a great pair of very unattractive glasses. This was back in ancient times before several great innovations in lens technology so I had glasses with rather thick lenses. Kids being kids they immediately dubbed my glasses and me “Coke bottle bottoms.”

Frankly, I didn’t care what they called me. I could see. There I was, six years old, and for the first time in my life I could see the things that other kids had been seeing all along. I discovered that one could see individual blades of grass without having to lie down on the grass. Trees have individual leaves. A baseball thrown to me could be seen before it was just inches away. A whole new world and a whole new way of seeing the world had opened up to me. Call me names, I didn’t care. Life was suddenly bright and clear. I especially loved the clear part. It took a bit of adjusting to but adjust I did and love it I did.

Fuzzy Church
We live in a time when we like to label things and people and ideas and politics and just about everything. We, in the life of the church, like labels too. There are all kinds of “Church” going on out there. There is traditional church, contemporary church, emergent church, progressive church, house church, open and affirming church, life church, simple church, cyber church, and the list could go on and on. I would like to propose one more “type” of church – Fuzzy Church.

Fuzzy Church is what most of our aging, mainline denominational churches seem to be practicing. By Fuzzy Church I mean we are doing church without our glasses on. We can’t see where we are or where we are going. We, the church, lack what I lacked before entering school and visiting the eye doctor – clear vision. We insist on doing church, or are at least willing to do church, without a clear, powerful and empowering vision from God. And without a vision our blurred, fuzzy perceptions are causing us to stumble around, running into problems, arguing with each other about minutia, running after whatever appears in our paths as something cool and trendy to do, attempting to build our churches on what we might consider to be good ideas.

I am not a proponent of Fuzzy Church. Not only do I not want to practice Fuzzy Church, I believe if we keep doing Fuzzy Church, we are going to kill the church. Well over 100 years ago, in what I believe was an amazingly egocentric move, Frederick Nietzsche pronounce God dead. He, of course, didn’t mean that God had really died, but that God had never existed. It is a cheap shot but I will take it by announcing that 100 + years later God is much more alive than Nietzsche.

Since the days of the announcement of the death of God, many people have been writing about and arguing about and worrying about the life and health of the church in North America. For the past several decades those within the church and those who observe the church from a safe distance have opined that the church is on its way out. Many people have joyfully pronounced the church dead. I don’t think the church is dead. Well, I don’t think it is all dead, but it is just mostly dead. (My thanks and apologies to the writers of The Princess Bride.)

The Results of Fuzzy Church
The church in the northern hemisphere, as we have known it for several centuries, is just about dead. That is not an opinion. It is not an accusation. It is not a complaint. It is not a call to arms. It is just an observation. If the statistics being reported to us are accurate, it is an astute observation of the obvious. The church in North America is dying and it is dying rapidly.

I feel badly about that… kinda. First let me address the “I feel bad” part of that statement. I feel bad because I love the church. In general, the church has been good to me and for me. Some of the best (and some of the worst) experiences I have had have been in the church. I believe in the church. I think Jesus founded the church as His vehicle to impact this sadly sick world with His message of love, health and forgiveness. The church, at its best, is an awesome, beautiful thing. But all too often, the church is not at its best. And at its less-than-best the church must be seen as unacceptable.

I feel badly that the church is dying because it is me and people like me who have just about finished it off. It has been under my generation’s leadership that the church has taken a nose dive in attendance, mission, ministry and cultural influence. The church has survived some amazingly toxic assaults, both ecclesiastical and secular, over the centuries. But nothing can measure up to the toxicity of our present North American culture. I am not attempting to fix blame for the state of the church; just making an observation. Without going into a cultural diatribe let me just say that our present culture is a challenging place and time to do church. Personally, I like the challenge. I believe it is in just such a challenging arena that the church can flourish and grow to its fullest potential. That is where my “kinda” came from. Though we, the church, seem to be dying rapidly, I believe we are perfectly positioned to profoundly impact our world.

Get a Clear Vision
This article is not a plea or an apologetic for everyone to do church like I think we should do church. It is a call for us to quit doing church driven by our personal preferences, our political agendas, our perceived needs, or our human frailties. Instead we must start doing church driven by the vision God has given us, you and me, for the church. It is not about trying to meet the needs of the people in our communities (Though that is not a bad idea.), or speaking to the preferences of a specific generational group (But that is not to be ignored.), or pushing a political agenda in the name of justice or righteousness (Though justice and righteousness are great things to pursue.), or putting all of our time, energy and effort in developing programs and events that might grow the church (Again not a bad idea.). Instead we must get a Godly vision.

Quite honestly, I have attempted to “do church” using almost all of the previously mentioned platforms, policies, programs and processes. And in doing those things I have been moderately successful… for a while… sometimes. But the church always seemed to be wandering, feeling its way around, not going anywhere in particular or doing anything with strength and vigor. I have come to believe we were doing fuzzy church.

It is probably pretty common to find it easier to try to do church by searching out new and innovative programs, plugging them into my local church situation and trying to get them to work. Most of us find it to be much more difficult to get a vision and using that vision to drive the church. By vision I do not mean coming up with a good idea. Coming up with a good idea or two is easy. I can come up with a couple of good ideas a week. I am talking about finding a God-given, divinely inspired vision for what God would have your local church be and do. Taking the time and energy to seek God and to listen to what God has to say is difficult. Some, if not most, churches seek God’s vision by having a meeting and inviting everyone to come and have their say. And I am all for people having their say. But the voice I want to hear is God and that voice is usually heard in the quiet of prayer and meditation and in conversations with follow visionaries. To find God’s calling, mission and vision for your church is going to take a deep investment in prayer, study of the scripture and deeply spiritual conversations among the spiritual leaders of the church.

With a clear vision to guide the church, fuzzy church goes away. Discussions are held in the context of the vision. Instead of making decisions based on personal preference or past experiences, decisions begin to be made according to where the vision is directing the church.

• Should our worship service be traditional, blended or contemporary? What is our vision?
• Should we invest in a children’s sports ministry? What is our vision?
• Should we consider remodeling the present structure or should we relocate? What is our vision?
• Should the church develop a small group ministry? What is the vision?
• What kind of staffing should the church add? What is the vision?

Being guided by a God given vision changes how we do church. It changes everything about what we decide and how we decide to move into the church’s future. Vision brings clarity. No more fuzzy church.

Copyright © 2010, William T. McConnell, All Rights Reserved