Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
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Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Faith and Trust


Something that is probably obvious to others has only recently become clear in my mind. Faith and trust are different. One is built on the other but they are not the same thing.

If I go to the dictionary for help I usually don’t find much help. Looking at Faith I found:

  1. Confidence or trust in a person or thing:
  2. Belief that is not based on proof:
  3. Belief in God or in the doctrines or teachings of religion:
  4. Belief in anything, as a code of ethics, standards of merit, etc.:
  5. A system of religious belief.”

Faith can’t be proved by the scientific method. Many things can’t but because it can’t be “proven” it is easily dismissed by many in the scientific community. For some odd reasons, some people of faith want to debate the issue with those who dismiss belief in God because it can’t be proven. That is a real waste of time because the two sides can’t be debated because there is not common ground or a set of shared values. Thus, in the end, each side is sure they won the debate because the opposition’s argument made no sense to them. Correctness and victory are in the eyes of the beholder. The victory of the “science guy” is widely held because science has become our modern religious faith system. Most educated within the humanist educational system just assume the scientific method is not to be denied.

Faith believes in things unseen and the un-seeable. The author of Hebrews put it like this. Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. This is what the ancients were commended for. (Hebrews 11:1-2 NIV) A person of faith believes in something one doesn’t see but we can often see the results of the existence of that which is unseen. The Bible mentions the wind. It moves about and we can’t see it but we can feel it on our faces and see the leaves on the trees being stirred. Another example of an unseen force is love. I can’t see love as a force but I have seen love at work and have felt the impact of love on my life.

To know God and have a relationship with God, one must have faith in God. God is not seen. When I share with non-believers that I have never seen God but have seen God at work, they tend to dismiss such talk as silly because their belief system has no room for God – no room for the unseen and unprovable. They can’t believe me because to do so would call for a complete recalibration of their core values. And that is way too difficult and too much work.

Much of what we read in scripture is about faith. We talk about faith. We seek to have more faith. But Hebrews tells us that faith is a part of the Christian’s Elementary education. Therefore let us move beyond the elementary teachings about Christ and be taken forward to maturity, not laying again the foundation of repentance from acts that lead to death, and of faith in God, instruction about cleansing rites, the laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment. And God permitting, we will do so. (Hebrews 6:1-3 NIV) Faith is basic to all that Believers understand about God and the things of the Kingdom of God. It is one of the foundation blocks upon which we build. Faith is necessary to coming to know God and for growing spiritually.

Faith, practiced, is powerful. We see that in a couple of stories of faith recorded by Matthew. Just then a woman who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years came up behind him and touched the edge of his cloak. She said to herself, “If I only touch his cloak, I will be healed.” Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment. When Jesus entered the synagogue leader’s house and saw the noisy crowd and people playing pipes, he said, “Go away. The girl is not dead but asleep.” But they laughed at him. After the crowd had been put outside, he went in and took the girl by the hand, and she got up. News of this spread through all that region. As Jesus went on from there, two blind men followed him, calling out, “Have mercy on us, Son of David!” When he had gone indoors, the blind men came to him, and he asked them, “Do you believe that I am able to do this?” “Yes, Lord,” they replied. Then he touched their eyes and said, “According to your faith let it be done to you”; and their sight was restored. Jesus warned them sternly, “See that no one knows about this.” Matthew 9:20-31 (NIV)

Without trust, faith is fragile. Trust is built when faith is put to work and produces results. When one starts to experience the results of putting one’s faith in God one begins to trust God. For the mature Christian, faith is no longer an issue because, by living a life of faith, we have come to trust God.

When I think of faith and trust I think of my relationship with my wife, Nancy. Before I met her I had faith in love and that I would someday meet the love of my life. I couldn’t see love. I had not yet experienced loving someone in that way. I wasn’t sure I had ever seen that kind of relationship in action. But I had faith it could happen. All I had was that precarious faith in an unseen possibility. And then I met Nancy. And our relationship grew as we experienced each other and life together. As our relationship grew my trust grew. Do I have faith in Nancy? Sure. But more than that, I trust Nancy.

As long as we seek to prove or disprove God according to the scientific method we will fail. Instead I encourage you to experience God. God is not to be proven; the Living God is to be experienced through a vital and growing daily relationship. Trust me on this. J

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Bill McConnell is Senior Minister at Lindenwood Christian Church in Memphis, Tennessee and is a Church Transformation consultant and a Christian Leadership Coach. He is a frequent speaker at Church Transformation events. He can be contacted @ bill45053@gmail.com. Connect with him on Facebook @ https://www.facebook.com/pages/William-T-McConnell/812462358785951 or on Twitter @bill45053.


Wednesday, November 10, 2010

There Is a Reason Life Is a Mess

As a pastor and as a friend, it is troubling to talk to church members and friends that I care so much about and have them report that they feel that: their relationship with God has ended; that God seems a million miles away; that they are in a very dark and lonely place; that their marriage is coming apart at the seams; that they have lost their passion for God and for life.

I hate to see anyone suffer and feel alienated from God and the people in their lives that should be the closest and most important.

Another dynamic in almost every one of these situations it that the people involved have made some monumental choices that have led them to be where they are. At the time they made those choices, the choices seemed inconsequential.

Choices like skipping worship for a family outing or kid's sports or some time away or just some down time. Choices like going out with the girls or the guys instead of hanging out with the spouse or spending time with the family. Choices like taking on another extracurricular activity or buying something extra and having to work overtime to pay for it. Making the choice to get deeper in debt instead of saving to buy whatever caught their eye and then living with the added tension of unpaid and un-payable bills. Deciding that life is too full and tiring to continue to attend Life Group or to continue doing the ministry that God has called them to.

We make small choices that, step by little step, imperceptibly draw us away from the things we need to do to keep our relationship with God and our relationships with the people that matter most in our lives strong and healthy. And then, when everything collapses, we wonder what happened. In almost every case people have failed to follow the very simple plan we, as a church, have given to help maintain a healthy and growing spiritual life. When you are a part of Legacy Christian Church, you are urged to consistently do just four simple things: to follow and exercise four spiritual disciplines. We don't guarantee that life will become problem free, but we do believe it will be better and you will be a stronger Christian. These are those four things.

In an effort to help us give our lives the meaning, purpose and direction God would want for us, Legacy Christian Church proposes that we simplify our lives, live them purposefully and with discipline. At the core of this concept is the idea that we do four simple things (Disciplines) consistently and well.

1. WORSHIP - Spend time each week in corporate worship. There is something powerful and life changing about worshiping God in a Body of Believers.
Jesus said, "Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth." John 4:23-24

2. PERSONAL QUIET TIME - You are encouraged to set aside a few minutes each day to be with God. This time could include Bible reading, meditation, silence, prayer and listening for God to speak truth into your heart. Personal spiritual growth happens in this time of study, prayer and reflection. We believe each individual believer is ultimately responsible for his or her spiritual growth.
Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place... Immediately he made his disciples get into the boat and go before him to the other side, to Beth-saida, while he dismissed the crowd. And after he (Jesus) had taken leave of them, he went up on the mountain to pray.
Mark 6:31-32, 45-46

3. LIFE GROUP - Everyone is urged to actively participate in a healthy, vibrant Life Group. It is in the intimacy and trust of a Life Group that lives can be changed. In a Life Group we worship, study, share life and do ministry together. A Life Group can be a great entry way for a person to come into the life of the church. In a Life Group life is truly shared, truth can be spoken and accountability partnerships can be formed.
"Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another-and all the more as you see the Day approaching." Hebrews 10:25

4. MINISTRY - All Christians are called to live lives of purpose in serving others. That service can be done in serving follow Christians in the church - we can that ministry. Or we can serve those who do not yet know God, bless them and connect with them to help them come to know and experience God's love.
You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love. The entire law is summed up in a single command: "Love your neighbor as yourself. Galatians 5: 13-14

As someone who cares deeply about you, I encourage you to just do these four things. Please.

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